If there is one thing that is a constant in life, it’s change. Although expected throughout life’s trajectory, change isn’t always easy to navigate.
As humans, we often fear the unknown. We are innately more secure in our comfort zones and steering off course can be daunting. Even if the status quo isn’t as wonderfully fulfilling as it should be, the age-old adage of “better the devil you know than the devil you don’t” often rings true.
So, how do we cope with change? How do we deal with the impact of a fork in the road or a pathway that takes us in a different direction than we anticipated?
Well, research shows that there are definitive ways in which we can manage fear and apprehension and embrace change in whatever form it takes.
Here are our top 5 suggestions to help you cope with your new Far From Fkn Normal:
- Validate your feelings – understand and accept that the change you are facing may be challenging. Even positive changes can elicit feelings of uncertainty and anxiety. Don’t force yourself to react in a certain way, be comfortable and accepting of the emotions you are experiencing. This will make the transition into the unknown easier.
- Resist resistance – allow yourself the feelings of uncertainty but also consider accepting the situation and open yourself up to growth and opportunity.
- Understand the change – delve into what is actually changing for you and why. Whether it be personal or work related, unpack the reasons behind the change. Work out what has lead to a deviation from your expected course and what likely impact it will have on you and those around you.
- Reframe your thinking – sometimes the way you view change may have a major impact on the way you deal with it. An automatic negative response to change can inhibit your ability to focus on the positive aspects. It is easy to get bogged down by undesirable, destructive thoughts and feelings about change. Making a conscious effort to reframe can help you shift your perspective.
- Believe in your ability to survive and thrive – although change is daunting, having the capacity to draw on your own strength and resilience can significantly help the transition from the known to the unknown.
Change comes in all forms and it is sometimes very difficult to leave behind what you know and are used to. If you take the time to explore and understand change, acknowledge your feelings, keep a positive mindset, draw on support if needed and give yourself time to adapt, the transition into something new may be a bit smoother.
And if all else fails, remember that “a change is as a good as a holiday!”
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